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From: Mirabelle Summers <news@meetyoursweet.com>
Date: Sun, Sep 9, 2012 at 6:22 AM
Subject: Using Your Body to Attract the Right Kind of Attention - Flirting Signals Explained
Hey, Jorge!
Habitually, we think that we derive meaning
from WORDS.
But ACTUALLY, studies have proven that we
derive less than 9% of the meaning of any human
interaction from what people say.
The rest is inferred from the posture,
placement, and positioning of our bodies.
If you want to be attractive, more popular, and
irresistibly sexy, then the easiest and fastest
thing you can do to achieve that end is to PAY
ATTENTION TO YOUR BODY LANGUAGE.
Incidentally, for a complete and comprehensive
guide to body language and how to use it for
effective flirting in any social situation, check
out "Conversation Chemistry", which
you'll find here:
http://www.meetyoursweet.com/conversationchemistry/
And knowing how to speak the language of limbs
and torsos isn't just useful for polishing up your
OWN social persona - it can even help you figure
out whether someone's into you!
When you consider that most relationships sink
or swim on the basis of less than 5 minutes' worth
of mutual assessment, knowing how to make all the
right moves is INDISPENSABLE.
Want to know how to control others' opinions of
you?
Want to know how to look sexy, confident, and
come-hither?
It's as easy as checking yourself out in the
mirror.
There's just one basic, ground-level rule for
correctly, accurately interpreting body language:
the Rule of Four.
There are always going to be instances where
another, less-obvious reason is actually the cause
of a particular giveaway posture or attitude. For
example, he's crossed his arms because he's
freezing cold, not because he doesn't want to talk
to you!
For this reason, most body language experts are
in agreement that it's best if you look for at
least 4 corresponding signals that support each
other before you base any opinions on them.
And now, keeping that rule in mind, let's talk
about the top 5 tips for USING YOUR BODY TO GET
NOTICED - and figuring out what other people think
of you!
1. BE AWARE OF THE RULES OF BODY LANGUAGE.
"Open" is good, "closed" is bad.
Open body language is what attracts others to
us.
It makes us look confident, self-assured,
attractive, and approachable - all essential
elements to social fun and flirtation.
But what IS open body language?
Open body language is the kind that you assume
when you're feeling happy, expansive, and sexy.
Your shoulders are back. Your head is erect on
your neck. Your chin is up. You're not slumping or
frowning (which is a closed facial "door").
Your arms are hanging loosely at your sides,
gesticulating in conversation, or one might be
propped on an invitingly cocked hip - never folded
or fidgeting with hair, jewelry, or fingernails.
If standing, your legs are slightly apart, and
your weight is resting on the balls and heels of
your feet.
There's no ankle-crossing to be seen here - and
there's no shifting nervously from foot to foot,
either.
Hint: ankle-crossing is the bodily equivalent
of biting your lip, or chewing on your
fingernails: it makes you look like you're
bottling something up.
***** GET SOMEONE TO APPROACH YOU *****
If you want a specific person to approach you,
angle your torso towards them. The more fully
you're facing them, the easier they'll find it to
approach you.
This is a very INVITING posture - which is just
what you want!
Make your intentions clear by keeping your arms
and legs loose and easy, not rigid and folded. His
instincts will still make sense of your
invitation, even if his brains doesn't.
***** KNOW WHEN TO APPROACH SOMEONE ELSE *****
Analyze a man's body language to see how open
he is to being approached.
Stay away if he's slumped over on a bar stool
or sofa, legs akimbo, chin touching clavicle, eyes
pinned on the ground, or avoiding eye contact.
Likewise, beware of anyone with his hands
shoved in his pockets, feet dragging on the
ground, or ankles crossed defiantly.
Wait 'til his chin's up, his arms are loose and
swinging, his shoulders are back and his tummy's
sucked in before making your move. These are the
male postures that signify confidence,
agreeability, and a desire to be approached.
2. CHECK YOURSELF OUT!
Wonder how you're coming across to others?
It's hard to tell, even if we think we're
super-aware of our own bodies.
In fact, the best thing you can do to see how
you're coming across to others is to:
- Ask a trusted friend for an honest opinion.
Ask them what vibes you give off when you talk to
others - and ask them for SPECIFICS. If they think
you look nervous or unapproachable, WHY do they
think that? Is it because you keep tapping your
foot nervously? Is it because you don't make
sustained eye contact with anyone? Ask for the
details.
- Check yourself out in the mirror. You need to
be socially engaged for this to be helpful - your
best bet is to watch yourself talk and gesticulate
the next time you take a social phonecall.
Friend or potential date, either is going to be
just as helpful - watch how you look when you're in a
conversation. Are there any irritating or
unattractive habits you've got? Perhaps you
twiddle your hair obsessively, or habitually stand
with slumped shoulders. There's nothing like an
extended self-observation to help you iron the
kinks out of your image.
3. GET THE RULES OF SOCIAL PROXEMICS SORTED!
"Proxemics" is the study of social spatial
zones - the areas that we occupy in relation to
one another, controlled by how comfortable we are
around certain people.
This is a really fascinating way for you to
figure out how somebody else is feeling about you
- and it can all be done without saying a single
word!
Here's the deal.
There are 3 basic "zones":
- The 'social distance' zone, used for
interactions among acquaintances and just-mets.
Studies in the field have proven that, when
we're just getting to know somebody, and don't
necessarily want to intensify our relationship
with them, we keep our distance.
To be specific, we tend to hover approximately
2-4 feet from this person.
Any closer than this, and we instinctively
begin to feel uneasy - UNLESS we're comfortable
with this person, in which case we'll signify our
welcoming of their forays into our personal
"bubble" by leaning further towards them (or even
moving closer ourselves).
- The 'personal distance', for interacting
among close friends.
Tracey Cox, author of "Superdate: How to Get
One, How to Be One" calls this one the "intimate
zone", and explains that it's reserved strictly
for people we've welcomed into our inner social
circle: close friends and potential lovers, in
other words.
This zone is dramatically smaller than the
"social distance": at just 7-14 inches, you're
feeling pretty comfortable with someone when
they're welcome in this zone. How to use it to
your advantage?
Test the waters by making a subtle advance into
this zone.
If they take a step back - an unconscious
attempt to maintain "social distance" - it means
they're not comfortable around you yet, and you
should hold your horses.
But if they hold their ground, or lean towards
you, you're probably welcome there.
- The "super-intimate zone".
This one's really close: imagine how cozy you
get with someone when you're whispering into their
ear, or when you're moving in for a kiss.
It's the smallest zone yet: between 0-15
inches. And there's only one reason that two
people are this close together: they're either
lovers, or they're most likely about to be.
If you and your desired are this close
together, it's only a matter of time.
If you'd like to progress into this zone from
the "intimate zone", Tracey suggests leaning
forward with your head and torso, while keeping
your feet rooted safely in the intimate zone. That
way, if they respond favorably, you can shift
forwards completely - and if they seem
disconcerted, you can lean back again, no harm
done and dignity intact.
4. FEET SPEAK LOUDER THAN LIPS!
Here's an interesting fact about the language
of the body: the further away from our faces a
signal is being generated, the more likely it is
to be true.
This is because our faces, as our primary
canvases for communication, are under our
strictest control.
It's not that difficult for somebody to make
their face convey emotions that they're not really
feeling: we smile when we're actually embarrassed,
or remain neutral when, actually, we want to cry.
This degree of control gradually recedes the
further down our bodies (away from our faces) we
go.
So someone can consciously relax their
shoulders, and make themselves appear relaxed when
they're actually a ball of tension - but they're
less likely to be able to disguise the anxious
tapping of their fingers against the tabletop, for
example.
Your feet, as the furthest away sign-makers of
your entire body, are the most reliable indicators
of sexual attraction that you can find.
And the best part? The language of the feet is
EASY TO READ.
We use our feet like signposts to point towards
what we want.
So, for example, when you're talking to
somebody and you're really in a rush to get going,
you might be able to disguise this fact out of
simple politeness by angling your torso towards
them, smiling, and nodding when they speak.
But what you probably don't realize is that
your feet are broadcasting your desire to hit the
road, loud and clear: at least one foot will be
pointing in the direction that you wish you were
headed in.
This rule is easy to adapt for social and
romantic situations.
Trying to figure out if someone's really
enjoying their conversation with you? Dart a quick
glance at their feet. If his feet are pointing
squarely at you, toes-on, then that shows distinct
interest (especially if they don't shift around).
If, on the other hand, one or both feet are
pointing away - or if he's fidgeting around or
crossing one ankle over the other - that indicates
uncertainty or a desire to get away.
5. MEMORIZE THE 3 GIVEAWAY SIGNALS OF SEXUAL
ATTRACTION.
Want to subtly tell someone you're interested
in them? Display any of the following, and he'll
get the message:
- Brush your fingers lightly and repeatedly
across your throat or décolletage (the area of
skin that's just above your breasts and below your
collarbones). This is a classic 'lovers-only'
zone: nobody but a lover gets to touch these
areas. Touching yourself there is a distinct
signal that you want to be touched.
- Arch your back, sticking your bottom and
breasts out slightly. This is the torso's way of
saying, "I see you. I like you. Check me out!" It
highlights and emphasizes all the most feminine
parts of your body, and makes you super-attractive
to men.
- Anything that draws attention to your lips is
a distinct 'come-hither' gesture. It could be as
subtle as applying lip balm, or as blatant as
fingering your lips and pouting. Applying
lipstick, sipping repeatedly from a bottle or
straw, and - if you're a smoker - smoking more
often are also activities that draw attention to
the lips.
Wondering if he's interested in you?
Here's how to tell ...
- Discreet preening gestures. Although women
are more likely than men to preen publicly, guys
do it too: the most common gesture is to smooth
the eyebrows or hair, but brushing down the front
of a shirt and tie-straightening are common as
well.
- The opposite of a woman, a man will actually
cock his pelvis slightly so that his crotch is
thrust out. All the better to emphasize the
obvious!
- A subtle, closed-lip smile combined with a
torso that's angled towards you. This smile is the
one where no teeth are exposed and the lips curve
slightly up at the corners. It's also the smile
that's used to exhibit sexual interest. It's
flirty, subtle, and a distinct "I like you"
signal.
By the way, did you know that there are
actually specific behaviors that you can exhibit
to attract him to you in the first place?
If you're interested in learning more about
this, then you should read this:
http://www.000relationships.com/wantmore/index.php.
Just remember to apply the Rule of 4 ... and
enjoy the advantage that your new-found knowledge
has given you!
I'll talk to you again in a few days.
Your friend,
Mirabelle Summers
P.S. Don't forget to look at our product
catalog! It's bursting with top-quality material
on finding, attracting, and keeping, quality men -
our authors are highly sought-after experts in the
field, and we've helped thousands of women online
to find and enjoy lasting love.
You'll find our catalog here:
http://www.meetyoursweet.com/women/
**************************************************
About the authors:
Mirabelle Summers and Slade Shaw are the
inimitable duo of dating and relationship experts
at MeetYourSweet.com. Their fresh and engaging
approach to women's relationship advice,
particularly in empowering women to achieve
spiritual and physical transformations in their
personal lives, social lives, and all interactions
with men, has inspired and strengthened their
followers the world over.
MeetYourSweet.com is a network dedicated to
giving you the ultimate toolkit to creating the
success you crave with men AND with life. No
matter who you are, we can help you become the
absolute best you can be at relating with the
opposite sex. MeetYourSweet has thousands of
satisfied customers who have used their life tools
to help them kickstart their personal and social
transformation.
Your new life starts today at:
http://www.meetyoursweet.com
****************************************************
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From: Mirabelle Summers <news@meetyoursweet.com>
Date: Sun, Sep 9, 2012 at 6:22 AM
Subject: Using Your Body to Attract the Right Kind of Attention - Flirting Signals Explained
Hey, Jorge!
Habitually, we think that we derive meaning
from WORDS.
But ACTUALLY, studies have proven that we
derive less than 9% of the meaning of any human
interaction from what people say.
The rest is inferred from the posture,
placement, and positioning of our bodies.
If you want to be attractive, more popular, and
irresistibly sexy, then the easiest and fastest
thing you can do to achieve that end is to PAY
ATTENTION TO YOUR BODY LANGUAGE.
Incidentally, for a complete and comprehensive
guide to body language and how to use it for
effective flirting in any social situation, check
out "Conversation Chemistry", which
you'll find here:
http://www.meetyoursweet.com/conversationchemistry/
And knowing how to speak the language of limbs
and torsos isn't just useful for polishing up your
OWN social persona - it can even help you figure
out whether someone's into you!
When you consider that most relationships sink
or swim on the basis of less than 5 minutes' worth
of mutual assessment, knowing how to make all the
right moves is INDISPENSABLE.
Want to know how to control others' opinions of
you?
Want to know how to look sexy, confident, and
come-hither?
It's as easy as checking yourself out in the
mirror.
There's just one basic, ground-level rule for
correctly, accurately interpreting body language:
the Rule of Four.
There are always going to be instances where
another, less-obvious reason is actually the cause
of a particular giveaway posture or attitude. For
example, he's crossed his arms because he's
freezing cold, not because he doesn't want to talk
to you!
For this reason, most body language experts are
in agreement that it's best if you look for at
least 4 corresponding signals that support each
other before you base any opinions on them.
And now, keeping that rule in mind, let's talk
about the top 5 tips for USING YOUR BODY TO GET
NOTICED - and figuring out what other people think
of you!
1. BE AWARE OF THE RULES OF BODY LANGUAGE.
"Open" is good, "closed" is bad.
Open body language is what attracts others to
us.
It makes us look confident, self-assured,
attractive, and approachable - all essential
elements to social fun and flirtation.
But what IS open body language?
Open body language is the kind that you assume
when you're feeling happy, expansive, and sexy.
Your shoulders are back. Your head is erect on
your neck. Your chin is up. You're not slumping or
frowning (which is a closed facial "door").
Your arms are hanging loosely at your sides,
gesticulating in conversation, or one might be
propped on an invitingly cocked hip - never folded
or fidgeting with hair, jewelry, or fingernails.
If standing, your legs are slightly apart, and
your weight is resting on the balls and heels of
your feet.
There's no ankle-crossing to be seen here - and
there's no shifting nervously from foot to foot,
either.
Hint: ankle-crossing is the bodily equivalent
of biting your lip, or chewing on your
fingernails: it makes you look like you're
bottling something up.
***** GET SOMEONE TO APPROACH YOU *****
If you want a specific person to approach you,
angle your torso towards them. The more fully
you're facing them, the easier they'll find it to
approach you.
This is a very INVITING posture - which is just
what you want!
Make your intentions clear by keeping your arms
and legs loose and easy, not rigid and folded. His
instincts will still make sense of your
invitation, even if his brains doesn't.
***** KNOW WHEN TO APPROACH SOMEONE ELSE *****
Analyze a man's body language to see how open
he is to being approached.
Stay away if he's slumped over on a bar stool
or sofa, legs akimbo, chin touching clavicle, eyes
pinned on the ground, or avoiding eye contact.
Likewise, beware of anyone with his hands
shoved in his pockets, feet dragging on the
ground, or ankles crossed defiantly.
Wait 'til his chin's up, his arms are loose and
swinging, his shoulders are back and his tummy's
sucked in before making your move. These are the
male postures that signify confidence,
agreeability, and a desire to be approached.
2. CHECK YOURSELF OUT!
Wonder how you're coming across to others?
It's hard to tell, even if we think we're
super-aware of our own bodies.
In fact, the best thing you can do to see how
you're coming across to others is to:
- Ask a trusted friend for an honest opinion.
Ask them what vibes you give off when you talk to
others - and ask them for SPECIFICS. If they think
you look nervous or unapproachable, WHY do they
think that? Is it because you keep tapping your
foot nervously? Is it because you don't make
sustained eye contact with anyone? Ask for the
details.
- Check yourself out in the mirror. You need to
be socially engaged for this to be helpful - your
best bet is to watch yourself talk and gesticulate
the next time you take a social phonecall.
Friend or potential date, either is going to be
just as helpful - watch how you look when you're in a
conversation. Are there any irritating or
unattractive habits you've got? Perhaps you
twiddle your hair obsessively, or habitually stand
with slumped shoulders. There's nothing like an
extended self-observation to help you iron the
kinks out of your image.
3. GET THE RULES OF SOCIAL PROXEMICS SORTED!
"Proxemics" is the study of social spatial
zones - the areas that we occupy in relation to
one another, controlled by how comfortable we are
around certain people.
This is a really fascinating way for you to
figure out how somebody else is feeling about you
- and it can all be done without saying a single
word!
Here's the deal.
There are 3 basic "zones":
- The 'social distance' zone, used for
interactions among acquaintances and just-mets.
Studies in the field have proven that, when
we're just getting to know somebody, and don't
necessarily want to intensify our relationship
with them, we keep our distance.
To be specific, we tend to hover approximately
2-4 feet from this person.
Any closer than this, and we instinctively
begin to feel uneasy - UNLESS we're comfortable
with this person, in which case we'll signify our
welcoming of their forays into our personal
"bubble" by leaning further towards them (or even
moving closer ourselves).
- The 'personal distance', for interacting
among close friends.
Tracey Cox, author of "Superdate: How to Get
One, How to Be One" calls this one the "intimate
zone", and explains that it's reserved strictly
for people we've welcomed into our inner social
circle: close friends and potential lovers, in
other words.
This zone is dramatically smaller than the
"social distance": at just 7-14 inches, you're
feeling pretty comfortable with someone when
they're welcome in this zone. How to use it to
your advantage?
Test the waters by making a subtle advance into
this zone.
If they take a step back - an unconscious
attempt to maintain "social distance" - it means
they're not comfortable around you yet, and you
should hold your horses.
But if they hold their ground, or lean towards
you, you're probably welcome there.
- The "super-intimate zone".
This one's really close: imagine how cozy you
get with someone when you're whispering into their
ear, or when you're moving in for a kiss.
It's the smallest zone yet: between 0-15
inches. And there's only one reason that two
people are this close together: they're either
lovers, or they're most likely about to be.
If you and your desired are this close
together, it's only a matter of time.
If you'd like to progress into this zone from
the "intimate zone", Tracey suggests leaning
forward with your head and torso, while keeping
your feet rooted safely in the intimate zone. That
way, if they respond favorably, you can shift
forwards completely - and if they seem
disconcerted, you can lean back again, no harm
done and dignity intact.
4. FEET SPEAK LOUDER THAN LIPS!
Here's an interesting fact about the language
of the body: the further away from our faces a
signal is being generated, the more likely it is
to be true.
This is because our faces, as our primary
canvases for communication, are under our
strictest control.
It's not that difficult for somebody to make
their face convey emotions that they're not really
feeling: we smile when we're actually embarrassed,
or remain neutral when, actually, we want to cry.
This degree of control gradually recedes the
further down our bodies (away from our faces) we
go.
So someone can consciously relax their
shoulders, and make themselves appear relaxed when
they're actually a ball of tension - but they're
less likely to be able to disguise the anxious
tapping of their fingers against the tabletop, for
example.
Your feet, as the furthest away sign-makers of
your entire body, are the most reliable indicators
of sexual attraction that you can find.
And the best part? The language of the feet is
EASY TO READ.
We use our feet like signposts to point towards
what we want.
So, for example, when you're talking to
somebody and you're really in a rush to get going,
you might be able to disguise this fact out of
simple politeness by angling your torso towards
them, smiling, and nodding when they speak.
But what you probably don't realize is that
your feet are broadcasting your desire to hit the
road, loud and clear: at least one foot will be
pointing in the direction that you wish you were
headed in.
This rule is easy to adapt for social and
romantic situations.
Trying to figure out if someone's really
enjoying their conversation with you? Dart a quick
glance at their feet. If his feet are pointing
squarely at you, toes-on, then that shows distinct
interest (especially if they don't shift around).
If, on the other hand, one or both feet are
pointing away - or if he's fidgeting around or
crossing one ankle over the other - that indicates
uncertainty or a desire to get away.
5. MEMORIZE THE 3 GIVEAWAY SIGNALS OF SEXUAL
ATTRACTION.
Want to subtly tell someone you're interested
in them? Display any of the following, and he'll
get the message:
- Brush your fingers lightly and repeatedly
across your throat or décolletage (the area of
skin that's just above your breasts and below your
collarbones). This is a classic 'lovers-only'
zone: nobody but a lover gets to touch these
areas. Touching yourself there is a distinct
signal that you want to be touched.
- Arch your back, sticking your bottom and
breasts out slightly. This is the torso's way of
saying, "I see you. I like you. Check me out!" It
highlights and emphasizes all the most feminine
parts of your body, and makes you super-attractive
to men.
- Anything that draws attention to your lips is
a distinct 'come-hither' gesture. It could be as
subtle as applying lip balm, or as blatant as
fingering your lips and pouting. Applying
lipstick, sipping repeatedly from a bottle or
straw, and - if you're a smoker - smoking more
often are also activities that draw attention to
the lips.
Wondering if he's interested in you?
Here's how to tell ...
- Discreet preening gestures. Although women
are more likely than men to preen publicly, guys
do it too: the most common gesture is to smooth
the eyebrows or hair, but brushing down the front
of a shirt and tie-straightening are common as
well.
- The opposite of a woman, a man will actually
cock his pelvis slightly so that his crotch is
thrust out. All the better to emphasize the
obvious!
- A subtle, closed-lip smile combined with a
torso that's angled towards you. This smile is the
one where no teeth are exposed and the lips curve
slightly up at the corners. It's also the smile
that's used to exhibit sexual interest. It's
flirty, subtle, and a distinct "I like you"
signal.
By the way, did you know that there are
actually specific behaviors that you can exhibit
to attract him to you in the first place?
If you're interested in learning more about
this, then you should read this:
http://www.000relationships.com/wantmore/index.php.
Just remember to apply the Rule of 4 ... and
enjoy the advantage that your new-found knowledge
has given you!
I'll talk to you again in a few days.
Your friend,
Mirabelle Summers
P.S. Don't forget to look at our product
catalog! It's bursting with top-quality material
on finding, attracting, and keeping, quality men -
our authors are highly sought-after experts in the
field, and we've helped thousands of women online
to find and enjoy lasting love.
You'll find our catalog here:
http://www.meetyoursweet.com/women/
**************************************************
About the authors:
Mirabelle Summers and Slade Shaw are the
inimitable duo of dating and relationship experts
at MeetYourSweet.com. Their fresh and engaging
approach to women's relationship advice,
particularly in empowering women to achieve
spiritual and physical transformations in their
personal lives, social lives, and all interactions
with men, has inspired and strengthened their
followers the world over.
MeetYourSweet.com is a network dedicated to
giving you the ultimate toolkit to creating the
success you crave with men AND with life. No
matter who you are, we can help you become the
absolute best you can be at relating with the
opposite sex. MeetYourSweet has thousands of
satisfied customers who have used their life tools
to help them kickstart their personal and social
transformation.
Your new life starts today at:
http://www.meetyoursweet.com
****************************************************
MeetYourSweet.com
Level 2, 107 Cashel St
Christchurch, Canterbury 8011
NEW ZEALAND
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